Wednesday, February 24, 2016

Why is it so important to stay pure until Marriage?

This post isn't to condemn those of you who have already failed in this area.
But it is my earnest prayer that this post would prevent someone from having to learn the hard way why God says to wait until marriage.
Thankfully I don't have to speak from experience. But from what I have heard from others who learned the hard way, I know it's true. By God's grace, I stayed pure and I wish this for every other unmarried girl. You don't have to learn the hard way!

Why is it important?

1) God says so
God has warned us so many times in the Bible. If God says it, it's important! God created us and He knows what is good. He has rules for our good.

2)It saves much regret
No one ever regreted staying pure. Doing right doesn't bring regret!
But from what I've heard over and over from those who've failed in this area, it brings regret that you have to live with for the rest of your life. God forgives and forgets when we repent, but we can't forget!

3)It saves unnecessary complications.
I'm talking here about getting pregnant before you are married. I went to a parenting course where the majority of the mums had children to different dads that they were no longer with. Listening to all the problems each week that this kind of lifestyle brings, I realized just how wise God is and how good the Biblical principles about marriage are. I heard about problems I never would have imagined. So many complications---children having to still see their dads etc. I am so glad I was kept from those problems.

4)Purity is the greatest wedding gift you can give your future husband

5)Once your purity is lost, you can never undo it.
It's permanent. You can be forgiven and put things right as much as you can, but you can't change it. It is a 'permanent marker.'

6)Being a parent is hard work!
Again about getting pregnant. I can't imagine trying to raise my children without my husband! It is hard and you need a husband's support and help. Children need a mum and a dad.

7) It is the 'easy' way
It may be hard to wait, but in the long run it is the easy way. So many people today do it the hard way!

8)It brings no shame
Sin brings shame. When you are married and you get pregnant, it is happy news. There is nothing shameful about it. But when you're not married, it brings you shame because it is a result of sin. If you call yourself a Christian it brings shame to God's name too.

9)It saves guilt
Sin brings guilt. Even when you are forgiven you may still struggle with guilt. Whereas if you wait, there is no need to feel guilty.

10) It brings joy!
How nice it is on your wedding day to know that you waited. You are brand new!
 
 
 
 

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

How Can I Read the Bible and Get Something from It?

These are just tips or ideas. This is actually my own question that I've been asking, as I've realized my Bible reading has not been so great lately. But I hope these ideas are helpful to you, too.
 

1)Have a Plan
Make a Bible Reading plan that will work for you and stick to it.
Lately I haven't been reading in a particular place in my Bible and it's not the best! Although God can use any verse in the Bible to speak to you, it's definitely better to follow some kind of a plan rather than trying to decide what to read every time you open your Bible.
I decided to use a plan in the back of my Bible which reads through the Bible in two years. So that means 2 chapters every day, one in the Old Testament and one in the New.
But there are different ideas:
Book by book
Bible Characters
Stories/Parables
Proverbs--1 chapter per day, as there's 31 chapters
A chapter in the Old and one in the New
'Read the Bible in a Year' plans

2) Make a specific time and place
Find a time that will work best for you. It's nice to do it first thing in the morning, but if you're more awake at night than in the morning maybe the evening would be better. What time do you concentrate best? 

3) Use a journal
Have some type of book that you can write down things you learn, verses that speak to you or a passage that stands out. It will help you remember.

4) Keep track of what you're reading
You could write down which chapters you've read in your journal so you remember where you're up to. Or else use bookmarks.
 

5) Pray first
Before you start reading, pray for God's help. There is a prayer in the psalms that says "Open thou mine eyes, that I may behold wondrous things out of thy law." Psalms 119:18 That's a good prayer to pray.
 
6) Ask questions as you read.
Here are some ideas:
What does this passage teach me about God? and about myself?
Is there a command, promise, warning or fact/truth in here? What can I apply to my life and how?

If reading a story about someone, you can ask...
What can I learn from this person?
What did they do right?
What did they do wrong?
What consequences did they get for their sin or what reward did they get for doing right?



7) Underline verses that speak to you.
I have found this really helpful. It makes the Bible more personal for me. It helps me concentrate and it helps me to find verses that I know.

8) Write down a prayer in response
In your journal you could write a short prayer as a response to what you've read. A prayer that is somehow appropriate to something you've just read.


9) Mix the hard with the easy
If you're not familiar with the Bible, it would be best to just start somewhere easy, like Genesis or Matthew, Mark, Luke or John.
But if you're more familiar...if you read a difficult took, read an easier book at the same time so you don't get discouraged and give up.
I remember hearing an Israeli telling my mum he had started reading the New Testament for the first time. He was reading Revelation! Mum told him that Revelation isn't a good book to start with. He replied, "What's wrong with it?" Mum explained that there is nothing wrong with it, but it's just a very difficult book!"

10) If possible, read aloud.
You have to concentrate when you're reading aloud!

11) If you have time, read it twice.
Sometimes you can miss things when you only read it once.

 12) Read a paraphrase/easy version/ or commentary alongside your regular version.
I have the Living Bible which is a paraphrase. My regular Bible is a KJV, so I sometimes find it handy to read the chapter I've just read in my Bible in the Living Bible, especially if what I'm reading is difficult to understand. There are some verses I never understood until I read them in there. Now I know what those verses are talking about!

13) Listen to the Bible being read.
My Dad isn't a very good reader, so ever since he's been a Christian, he's listened to the Bible on tape. Now he can listen to it on his phone. It's also quite handy if you're doing something quiet, like scrapbooking or cleaning. You can listen at the same time!

I have just downloaded the whole audio Bible from
http://www.bible.is/download/audio It's free and I got the dramatized one which is good if you don't concentrate very well when listening, like me! You can choose which version and language you want. It's quite amazing really!

Monday, January 4, 2016

Is Dating Wrong?


Is Dating Wrong? (dating Christian guys)
It's not wrong to go on a date with someone. But...I strongly discourage it.
Why?
Here are 9 reasons why I discourage dating.
(By dating, I mean having relationships with guys you have no intention of marrying--Dating for the fun of it. It's different when your purpose is marriage)

1)It's a waste of time
The time spent going on dates could be spent doing something profitable—serving God. Maybe you will learn lessons from broken relationships, but you don't have to learn the hard way! What's the purpose of dating anyway? Is it really using your time wisely?

2)It can lead to doing things you will regret.
Dating can lead to sin.
 
3) Most guys will become someone else's husband.
If you could choose between a guy whose been out with tons of girls and a guy who has waited for the right one, which one would you choose? Which type of girl do you think a good Christian guy would prefer? Do you really want to go out with someone else's future husband?

4) It doesn't prepare you for marriage.
God only has One person for you. If you are used to having lots of relationships before marriage, it will be harder for you to stay faithful to your One man after marriage. What will stop you from leaving when/if you don't feel like loving him anymore? Keep your heart for the one person God has for you.

5)It's really not necessary.
You don't have to date in order to find a husband. God is much bigger than that.
I have never dated anyone other than my husband! It's possible for you to find the right man without going on a single date with anyone else.
Ask God to bring the right person across your path at the right time, and get busy living for God and making the most of your single years.

6)It can bring a lot of hurt.
You might really like someone you date, but that person may not be serious about you and start dating someone else. Surely broken relationships must hurt!
 
7)It's more difficult to stay pure.
Going on dates bring temptation that could be avoided.

8) Once you are married, you will have the rest of your life to date!
You will be able to date your special man as much as you like! Why not wait for that special one?

 A recent date--celebrating our 6th year Wedding Anniversary
9)God created marriage not dating.
God created a wife for Adam not a girlfriend! And He only created one! The right one. The idea of dating many different people is not Biblical. But marriage is.

Saturday, December 12, 2015

Question about being gay/lesbian or transgender

The question
I don't believe It's right to hate people because they are gay/ lesbian/ or transgender or that they are doing something wrong. What do you think?

The Bible teaches us to love people not hate them. God accepts anyone who will turn from their sin and put their trust in Jesus Christ to save them. The Bible says that if we have broken just one of God's commandments we are are guilty of them all. So in God's eyes outside of Christ we are all equally sinful. So we have no right to look down on or hate other people.
But, on the other hand, the Bible also very clearly teaches that homosexuality and being transgender is wrong.
God created marriage to be between one man and one woman and he made females females and males males.
Here are some verses in the Bible that show us how God feels about it.

From the old Testament

Deuteronomy 22:5 ESV

A woman shall not wear a man's garment, nor shall a man put on a woman's cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God.

Leviticus 18:22, "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination."
Leviticus 20:13, "If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltness is upon them."

From the New Testament

Romans 1:24-32

Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. ...

I don't know a whole lot about the subject, but I do know from the Bible that it is wrong. But so is stealing, coveting, lying, etc. which we are all guilty of. So I won't hate someone because of their sin, but I will not accept it as being right.
I hope this answers your question. If I have misunderstood your question, let me know.

Sunday, November 22, 2015

Hi, I usually try and answer questions within a week, but at the moment my baby is in hospital waiting for surgery and life is not normal. So just letting the person know who asked a question that I will answer when I am able.

Saturday, June 20, 2015

How Can You Prove God Exists?

 You are proof! You are God's creation.
If there was no God, there would be no atheists!
Creation is proof of a Creator, just like a building is proof of a builder. It is logic.

One man said, "To prove there is a God, all you need is a brain that works and eyes that see!" It is obvious.
Everywhere you look there is proof.
 
You can also ask God to show you that He is real. If you sincerely ask Him, He will answer and show you.
The Bible says fools think there is no God.
It also says in   
Rom 1:18-20  For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness;
  Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them.
For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:   
 
In simpler paraphrased words "But God shows his anger from heaven against all sinful, evil men who push away the truth from them. For the truth about God is known to them instinctively; God has put this knowledge in their hearts. Since earliest times men have seen the earth and sky and all God made, and have known of his existence and great eternal power. So they will have no excuse (when they stand before God at Judgment Day).   (The Living Bible)     
 
 

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

How should a girl prepare for marriage?

1) Learn skills.
 Cooking, driving, gardening/yard work, looking after children etc.
Cooking is a big one! It's best to learn as much as possible before you are married, as once you are married meal planning becomes a big daily responsibility.
You don't want your husband to be like the newly wed guy who said, "My wife really worships me. She puts before me three burnt offerings every day!" :)

Help!!

2) Learn to keep a tidy room/house.
It's one thing to have a bedroom to keep in order, but it's another thing to have a whole house to look after. It's good to learn to keep your room clean and tidy and then it won't be so overwhelming when you have a whole house. Also, I can assure you, your husband will appreciate coming home to a clean orderly house!

3) Keep your heart for your man.

When you are married, you will have to stay faithful to your man. But if you are used to switching boyfriends regularly and flirting with anyone, how will you stay true to your man? God only has one man for you, so why not keep your heart pure until He shows you the right one?

4) Respect your father and/or any other authority in your life.

If you don't respect your father now, you probably won't respect your husband. Your father has much more experience than your future husband, so if you can't respect your father for his rules, authority and decisions, you won't respect your husband with his little experience/wisdom. Even though he isn't perfect and makes mistakes sometimes, respect him. Your husband won't be perfect either!

5) Learn to be content and thankful.

If you're not happy and fulfilled as a single woman, you won't be content as a wife either. You will not automatically become fulfilled once you are married.
Also, if you learn to be content and not covetous, you will be a big blessing to your husband as you will help save money!

6) Start praying for him.

As a wife, you'll need to pray for your husband that he will make the right decisions as he leads the family. Why not get in the habit now? All young guys need a lot of prayer! Even if you never marry, I don't believe your prayers will be wasted.

7) Make a list of all you want your husband to be, then learn to be that yourself.

It's easy to have expectations and yet not come close to meeting them ourselves. If you learn to be what you want your husband to be, you'll attract the type of husband you want.

8) Learn how guys think.

Males and females think very differently! If you learn how he thinks and what he needs, then you will be a better and happier wife!! Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a good book to learn how men think.

9) Study the Bible to see what God says to women.
What does the Bible say about how girls/women should live and act? What does God expect from wives? Why not find out?

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Should You Have a List of What You Want Your Future Husband to be?

It's more important to try and be yourself  what you want your future husband to be. Because you will most likely attract someone with the same values as you. For example, if you want a hardworking guy and you're lazy, you won't attract a hardworking guy. If you want a guy who is unselfish, he won't choose you if you are very selfish! If you want a guy who is active in serving God, the guy you're looking for will want a wife who is the same. So I would suggest you write a list, and then apply it to yourself.
It is important to want a good guy. It should matter to you what he is like. But the most important thing is for him to love the Lord and to be honorable. He needs to be someone you can respect.
If I had written a long list of what I wanted my future husband to be, I would have been a bit disappointed or I would still be single!! But my husband loves God and is someone I can respect. That is what's important. God's priorities are often different to ours.
Also, God knows what kind of man you need and what guy needs you. And it's probably different than what you think! :)
Pray for God to give you a husband who loves God and ask God to show you who that one is. There is only one for you! And pray that God will make you into what you want your husband to be.

I heard one pastor say "There are some woman who can't find a man because the man that they're looking for died on the cross and ascended to the right hand of the Father and there's not another one like Him."
There are no perfect guys out there. If there were, none of them would want to marry imperfect females like us!! But there are guys out there who live for God and who are respectable.

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Why Do Girls Need to Dress Modestly?



1) God says so.
This is all that really matters, isn't it? God said it, that settles it! It's a command from God.
  In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, 1Timothy 2:9

2) Guys think differently than girls.
My husband has told me I will never understand how guys think! He's right! But I do know a little bit.
Guys are visual. They are attracted/tempted by what they see.
Remember David with Bathsheba? If it had been the other way around, would Bathsheba have been tempted? I doubt it!! Girls aren't attracted to guys that way, right? It's just not a temptation! For me, at least! Girls are more tempted by touch.
Guys are different. So if we aren't modestly covered, we are a temptation for them to think sinful thoughts etc. Do you want to be a stumbling block to guys?

3) Safety.
So many bad things happen to girls because of the way they are dressed. I heard of some tourist girls in our country who were raped/attacked. In the newspaper report someone said something like, "The way they were dressed explained it." Of course guys are responsible for their sinful actions, but we shouldn't put temptation in front of them, otherwise we're just as guilty. I met a lady who is a missionary to the Aborigines in Australia. She reckoned that where she lived, there weren't so many rapes etc. because females don't wear tight and revealing clothes like they do here. If all girls dressed modestly, there would be a lot less problems in this world!

4) Clothes are supposed to be a covering.
Clothes are supposed to cover, aren't they? Not uncover!! Today clothes are designed to uncover.

5) You are an example to younger girls.
Girls around you are watching how you dress.  How you dress will affect how they dress. Are you a good role model?

6) It's honoring to God.
The Bible teaches us that whatever we do, we should do to the glory of God. That includes the way we dress. When is the last time you thought, 'Do these clothes honour God?'
Or do we dress to draw attention to ourselves? Do we dress to be like the world?

7) Dressing modestly will attract the right kind of guy!
If you don't dress modestly, you will attract attention, but not from a godly guy! Godly guys will have to look the other way. You want a guy who likes you for who you are--not for your body, right?

8)The way you dress reflects your heart.
I know that you can dress modestly and have a sinful heart. But if you have a heart that wants to please God, then it will affect the way you dress. If your heart is pure, you'll want to dress in a way that is pure.

9) It gives you dignity.
In the Bible in Proverbs there is a story about the strange lady. It says she is dressed like a harlot (prostitute). How do you think a harlot would dress?? I can guess! Why do they dress like that? To try and get attention to themselves. Does the way you dress make you look like a harlot?? There is no dignity in that.
I listened to a sermon where the preacher explained the difference between beauty and sensuality. God created beauty. Beauty isn't wrong.
But sensuality is different. It brings attention to your body in a sinful way. Like a harlot. Sensuality is wrong. It's not beauty.
If you're not for sale, don't advertise!

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Does God have one specific person for you to marry or would any good Christian guy do?

Is there a 'right' one?
If I hadn't believed that God had a specific person for me to marry, I wouldn't have married the man that I did! I wasn't attracted to my husband when I first met him or when he wanted to start a relationship sometime later. I hardly knew him and we didn't live in the same area, so I couldn't really get to know him without starting a relationship. If I hadn't believed that God had a specific person for me, I wouldn't have even thought twice about it. But I knew it was possible that he was the right one for me, so I prayed about it a lot and asked God for wisdom. And after five years of being married, I am so thankful I left the choice to God because He always knows what's best!
So I definitely believe the answer to this question is yes! (If its God's will for you to marry)
But I wasn't sure if I could actually back it up from the Bible.
So I started looking and was surprised at what I found. I read the story of Rebekah and Isaac to see if there were any clues.
In Genesis 24:14 when Abraham's servant was praying about finding a wife for Isaac he said,
And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
He said the same thing again in verse 44 when he was talking to Rebekah's family.
This servant believed that there was one particular girl who was the right one for Isaac. And it made his job a whole lot easier!! :)
And then if you look at the story of the very first marriage, you see that God created a wife for Adam. He didn't create 10 and give Adam the choice! He created Eve especially for Adam.
God knows what we need far better than we do.
But in saying all that, no guy is perfect! The right one does not mean a perfect one. And it's more important to be the right one yourself!